It's true confidence really is everything confidence is how we show that we are worth it's how we show the other person what we expect to happen during a dating situation or perhaps during a business meeting and it shows that we expect and demands the best from ourselves and others we've discussed before that we seek what we lack and so many people in this day and age lack confidence so what is confidence exactly because there are so many ways of defining confidence right it could be handling work handling people dealing with unknown situations I might not be confident of where I'm driving what is confidence so I like to define confidence as the ability to handle our environment and the certainty that we will come out of said situation okay now listen you're all here for relationships so that's pretty much what this video is gonna focus on but being confident in one area does not necessarily mean confidence in all areas so I like to think of confidence as a learning experience if something negative is going to happen to me I want to walk out of the situation knowing that I am better because of what happened that is a form of confidence the knowledge that no matter what happens I will learn from this and become better because of it and this is a very stoic sort of philosophy to have which I often draw very heavily upon whenever I'm doing a love chat video there is a quote from the stoic philosopher Seneca that says excellence withers without an adversary and that's something I want you all to consider confidence is what makes us appear attractive to everyone else and perhaps it's not even a sexual or romantic attraction perhaps it's something as simple as an admiration I admire my coworker because he works hard and I wish I had that within me look the reality is is that we all have it then us to become better to become more and each of us is given the tools to become better and more so how do you just become confident right how do we become more confident to be more attractive or to get a raise well it starts with a shift in mindset the very first thing you want to begin telling yourself is that there is no such thing as a failure only a setback now when I heard this stuff God did I cringe because all you can think of is oh okay yeah there's no such thing as failure right here we go another cheesy lesson that I can't actually apply to my life but the truth is and has always been that you're in charge of what happens to you you're in charge of the way that you think you're in charge of what you think about yourself and so many of us hate ourselves but there is so very much about each and every one of us that we should be celebrating and highlight the things about us that we do not like so we can begin fixing it for ourselves not for other people the mindset of confidence does not come from being egotistical or know-it-all it comes from understanding that without some form of adversity we become less and perhaps I can't walk into a situation and know exactly how everything's gonna go know exactly what to say exactly how to be funny or exactly what to do or how to dress or what one-liners work better than others or when I should agree when I should disagree but what I can do is walk in with the knowledge that each mistake that I make will build me up to become better in the future so we should let go of past failures and past mistakes with the knowledge that is not failure it's experience confidence is attractive because not many people have it and the irony is it's available to everyone for free confidence is not about feeling superior it's knowing that you're capable so perhaps for this week a good place to start would be to write down a list of areas where you don't feel is capable and write down realistic solutions for each of them how can I begin taking baby steps towards feeling more confident about myself about my body about my ability to do my job and about my appearance what you gain during the journey is more important than the destination that's all I have for today if you found my suggestions helpful I'd be very grateful if you'd hit like, please leave a comment below and tell me what topics you want me to cover in the future additionally, until next time......
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