How Do We Fall In Love

    

          Hello, this is Carry with the love Suggestions and today's topic is how do we fall in love.

          how we fall in love it's a little different between the genders and so what we'll do here is let's discuss how men tend to fall in love first so ladies this part is for you and gentlemen don't be too mad at me but the jig is up we fall in love faster than women do a 2010 study published in the journal of social psychology found that men reported not only falling in Love faster but saying I love you sooner than women and so this was surveyed by over I think it was over 160 college students 

          I'll link this survey below but the science and behavioral analysis does suggest that do in fact fall in love with women quicker but why what does it take for a man to fall in love with a woman first and foremost there are the physical attributes when a man looks at a woman and says I like what I see why is this our men really just that shallow well really the message that sent to the man's brain is that if I have a child with this person the child will turn out healthy and strong and so that is why we use things like makeup, for example, women will use makeup to make their cheeks appear rosier and why is that have you ever thought about why you do that ladies because it attracts men well because it shows that not only do you have a good blood circulation but that you are fertile and that is something that men look for obviously back and their subconscious the part of their brain

          they don't really control we look for women to impregnate to continue the human race it's I know it's not romantic trust me I know but this is a cold hard biological look at what's going on now perhaps the more personable look is that when men are attracted to women they're able to go further with their feelings so what is the next thing a man looks for when he's trying to fall in love with a woman or rather is in the process of falling in love with a woman not necessarily trying he looks for a woman that he can consider loyal now why is this men look for loyalty in women for a very simple biological reason and that reason is that when a woman bears a child she knows 100% that that child is hers a man does not and so loyalty is kind of built-in to man if you think about it we want to know that the child we have and that we're taken care of is actually ours and so again that's more to do with the subconscious rather than the conscious mind now when men are dating women some of the qualities that they look for that allow them to feel in love and the feelings of love are like we said loyalty physical        

           attraction humor men tend to enjoy women who are funny and most of all what really gets men's testosterone going which is one of the main key components of a man feeling in love he's when a woman validates him and makes him feel manly and trust me I know there's a couple of eye rolls going on somewhere on YouTube right now but I don't make up these rules you want to think about all the feel-good chemicals that were being flooded with when we're going through this time there is Oxycontin nor epinephrine testosterone for men dopamine which is something that we all go through it is a cocktail that is designed to attach us to our partner and for women when you're really trying to make a man fall in love one of the things that you want to do sorry guys I have to be a good coach here and gonna tell you guys the truth one of the things you want to do is really make men work before        

       things lead to the bedroom now why is that good man have a chemical in their brain called oppressiveness which is extremely similar to Oxycontin which is sort of the system of attachment that we use when we're falling in love and oppressiveness builds up over time and is released during orgasm so for men the more oppressiveness is built up the more they have the feeling of butterflies of attachment they feel sort of great around this person and basically that build-up now you might be thinking to yourself but then wouldn't the key hereby never to have sex well after the time            

              it does the opposite effect and so what can be said is you don't want to be so hasty to jump into the bedroom because both science and behavior analysis suggests that waiting to get to the bedroom will create a more happy more fulfilled relationship where men are more inclined to stay now women I gave you the scoop on men men it's time for you to learn about women now women play the slow game of love because while they are working with a lot of the same chemicals they use them in different quantities they use them in different ways in their bodies and certainly one of the biggest things for women is feeling safe and protected but not necessarily having their partner or potential partner solve their problems you see women have much more norepinephrine and methamphetamine when they're experiencing a sense of pleasure which over time can lead to love however the number one chemical is Oxycontin because women produce way way way more of it than men do and the number one time that they produce 

               it the most is during sex and so women are far more likely to fall in love with a man over time and in the presence of sexual contact however Oxycontin can also be released during much more innocent acts things like touching hugging holding hands compliments seeing something that were attracted to already releases a little bit of Oxycontin but we are not simply controlled by the chemicals in our brain the other half of this and what all men are freaking out about and they're saying but Rory I had I haven't had sex with them yet what am I going to do simple all you need to do this goes for women as well this goes for anybody who identifies as anything it's a very simple equation all you need to do is the person a that you have attractive qualities like confidence charisma being charming relaxed easygoing unattached to an outcome and be that you're not looking to lock them down to a commitment your only objective during the attraction phase should be as coach Cory Wayne says to hang out to have fun and to hook up if hooking up isn't possible just hang out and have fun and whatever happens will happen because we let nature take care of this part for us if you look at somebody and you find them to be attractive and they look at you and they find you to be attractive and you do not possess any red flag qualities that don't work for them let it happen naturally that's my suggestion for those of you who are currently looking for someone new perhaps a good exercise is to write down some interesting things that you've done to attract people in your past that go beyond the conventional wisdom let's see what we can think of together that's all I had for                     
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